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NAVIGATING MOTHERHOOD!

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I became a mother in 2025. I have one child, and she is seven months old. Seven months into this journey, I can say it has stretched me deeply — mentally, physically, and emotionally. It is a season that transforms you in ways you cannot fully prepare for. Before pregnancy, life was not bad. In fact, it was beautifully simple. I had a lot of “me time.” I could go out without planning around feeding schedules or naps. I didn’t have to rush home. My body felt familiar. My routines were predictable. There was freedom in that, an independence I didn’t know I would one day miss in small ways. Then Motherhood came, I would be honest, post-pregnancy has been a lot. There are days I feel strong and capable. There are days I feel overwhelmed. My body has changed. My routines have changed. My priorities have shifted. It’s a constant adjustment. Motherhood is a job you keep learning on. There’s no final exam. No complete manual. You grow as your child grows. One of the most challenging parts for ...
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Understanding Molestation, Assault and Rape.

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  We've heard different stories of rape victims, but I bet we never really took time to understand what goes on in the head of the survivors.   Molestation, Assault and Rape are actions that leave a mental disorientation in the mind of survivors.   Molestation is the act of touching or behaving toward someone in a sexual or inappropriate way without their  permission .   A very practical example is when conductors in a bid to call passengers touch you to take you to their bus, you got uncomfortable and told them but they refused to respect your body boundaries and keep touching you; that is molestation. The moment a hug, a kiss or even a touch becomes forced, that is MOLESTATION.    Assault on the other hand, is intentionally hurting someone or trying to hurt them, either physically or by making them fear they are about to be hurt. Assault can be physical or verbal threats.   A good example is raising a hand to hurt someone making them fear even t...
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THE DEVIL BEHIND PLANS

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The Devil behind plans: An interview with my inner Cynic  (In this blogpost, our in-house student Psychologist delights with a conversation with her inner self; A talk of Resolutions and how to get it right) - leave us a comment if this is relatable and share with someone!  Me: New year, new me! Cy: January confidence is loud, October habits are formed from consistency. Me: Cy, what's the deal with new year resolutions? Cy: Oh, they're just a recipe for disappointment. You promise yourself the world and by April, you're back to snoozing through alarms. Me: Harsh,but isn't it good to set goals? Cy: Goals are fine. It's the delulu of "I'll change overnight" that's the problem. Want real change?Not a flood of resolutions. Me: So what's the alternative? Cy: Ditch the hype. Pick one thing,do it gradually,do it daily. Me: Toorh. Sounds like a slow process but I want fast results! Cy: Fast results are overrated,think sustainability.  You want to run a...
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Emotional Intelligence Explained: Why Intent Is Not Enough

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Emotional intelligence  is a concept many people hear about but do not fully understand, and that is completely okay. Emotional intelligence is not commonly taught in schools or homes, yet it plays a major role in our relationships, communication, mental health, and overall wellbeing. It is okay to miss it. It is also okay to want to grow, adjust, and become emotionally healthier. This article explains what emotional intelligence is, why it matters, and how it shows up in everyday life. My name is  Oluwafunke Ajoba , a Social Psychologist with  Echoes Foundation , and it is my pleasure to guide you through a practical understanding of emotional intelligence. What Is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence (EI)  is the ability to recognize, understand, manage, and respond to emotions both your own and those of others in healthy and constructive ways. Emotional intelligence affects: • Communication and listening skills • Conflict resolution • Empathy...
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The difference between mental and psychological wellbeing

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A question people don’t ask is “what is the difference between mental and psychological wellbeing”! Well, let’s answer that. My name is Oluwafunke Ajoba, I am building up my space as an Experimental Social Psychologist in our world, it’s a tough, but good niche. And it answers questions like this. Mental wellbeing is a right now thing, psychology wellness is the depth of it. Mental wellness answers questions related to the state of your mind and how function on a daily basis. Like, how you cope with stress, deal with your environment and handle exhaustion before they convert to something else.  Mental health is often influenced by stress, workload, fatigue, sleep quality. Psychological wellbeing is identity, beliefs, values and unresolved problems that might influence your functionality and show up in your day-to-day life such that it influences your ability to live a fulfilling life. It’s buried in upbringing, experiences that had shaped you, trauma, life experiences.  Let’s ...
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Our Social Experiments

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It’s easy to believe we’ve mastered certain habits or think we’d act a certain way because we’ve read the right books or learnt the “right” lessons. But the truth is, our real character often shows up when we’re tested—whether in moments of power, pressure, hardship, or even unexpected joy.     Social experiments peel back those layers, not just to watch others, but to help us all understand ourselves a little better. In a social experiment, individuals or groups are placed in everyday scenarios, and their reactions, decisions, and behaviors are observed revealing the individual as a mirror —not the polished version we show online, but the reflection of who we truly are in real situations.     HOW SOCIAL EXPERIMENTS HELP CONFIRM PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORIES   Psychologists often come up with theories about how people think, feel, and behave. But theories aren’t enough on their own—they need to be tested in real life to see if they hold true. That’s where social experi...
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